6 problematic things parents do that can make their children insecure, withdrawn, drug-dependent, or otherwise worse off as they grow up

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Parenting behaviors — from being over-involved to constantly stressed out to emotionally abusive— can have lasting impacts from childhood all the way up to adulthood.
Abusive parenting during childhood may lead to a greater likelihood to developing age-related diseases.
Over-involved parenting also may lead to feelings of entitlement and less self-efficacy when you get older.
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For better or worse, how your parents behaved when you grew up has had — and likely will have — a lasting impact on who you are today.

Clinical and research psychologists have studied how adults suffer from parenting for decades. Whether your mom or dad was over-involved in your life or whether they were neglectful, there are negative consequences to certain types of parental behavior.

Read more: 10 ways your parents’ behaviors shaped who you are today

Yet while young children emulate their parents early on, adolescents and adults who recognize negative behavior can manage the influence your parents had on you, according to Carl Pickhardt, psychologist and author of Who Stole My Child?: Parenting through the Four Stages of Adolescence.

“Parents are hugely influential for who [their children] are and how they act,” Pickhardt told Business Insider. “However, what mediates that effect is the decision by the child to want to decide to follow that example or to differentiate from that.”

Here are 6 ways your parents’ behavior growing up may have had a negative impact on who you are today.

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Having abusive parents can lead to higher stress and likelihood of developing age-related diseases like cardiovascular disease.

Growing up with physically abusive parents as a child can have lingering adverse effects on your long-term physical health, according to a 2013 study out of the University of California-Los Angeles.

Researchers analyzed survey responses from 756 subjects, and found those with high levels of childhood stress had a greater chance of developing multi-system health risks like high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes.

The research suggests high amounts of stress during your childhood leads to difficulty controlling stress into your adulthood, which in turn allows for the adverse health effects.

“Our findings highlight the extent to which these early childhood experiences are associated with evidence of increased biological risks across nearly all of the body’s major regulatory systems,” Teresa Seeman, author of the study and professor of epidemiology at UCLA, said in a release.

If your parent was drug-dependent, you may have ended up having to take care of them as a child — which can cause problems with having fun as an adult.

Growing up with alcohol or drug dependent parents can lead children to take on the caretaking role early in life, Mark B Borg, Jr., a NYC-based clinical psychologist and a psychoanalyst, told Business Insider.

In turn, kids may lose out on a childhood to take care of their parents. As they themselves get older, this could lead to trouble having fun or letting their guard down, according to Portland Lifestyle …read more

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