Ask Amy: I confronted my wife about her suitors, and I’m not happy with her response

Dear Amy: Sometime after we got married, I went through my wife’s phone and saw that she was still communicating with her exes.

Amy Dickinson 

As they made advances toward her sexually, she never rejected their advances and remained in communication with them.

I confronted her about this, and she said she was ignoring them. Now she has changed her number, so they can’t contact her.

I feel that was cowardly of her. I’d feel more comfortable if she rejected them outright. I believe that by only changing her number, she can always call them back if our marriage doesn’t last.

What’s your take on this?

Confused Husband

Dear Confused: My take is that no one — you, your wife, or her exes — seems to expect your marriage to last.

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I agree with your overall point of view that once she married you, your wife should not engage in ongoing communication with former romantic or sexual partners, unless these people are in an active friendship with both of you.

It doesn’t matter what phone number your wife chooses. Any person can contact any other person, through social media, instant messenger, email, postal mail, smoke signals, semaphore flag signals or, Bob Woodward style, through leaving a flag in a flowerpot.

Most important is the lack of trust between you two. You should not feel the need to go through your wife’s phone and police her contact with other people. The fact that you do indicates the lack of trust at the core of your relationship.

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Dear Amy: A few years ago my cousin was absolutely entrenched in doing my father’s side of the family’s ancestral history. (His parents are deceased. Our fathers were brothers.)

He even went to our paternal grandfather’s native country in Europe to continue his search. While there, he located many distant relatives.

Then he did his own DNA test. He did not share the results with me until I shared mine with him.

My results showed 50 percent of our father’s heritage, while his DNA showed absolutely no connection between us. He and I should share the same half of DNA as his father and mine were brothers, right?

Since then, he has …read more

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